Busha Full Of Grace

this moment

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Happy Valentine's Day!

At Least We Have A Pot To Pee In

Sunday morning, sitting at my Mom's breakfast table with a jillion things rushing through my head. Trying to get her packed to move tomorrow without making her cry with each and everything I wrap. It's daunting to think she is moving tomorrow.  But...

First of all, the front door is open and the sun is shining through the screen.

I just gave Mom her pills, her tea, a ginger scone and a sliced apple. I caught her trying to palm the diuretic....again. She just doesn't understand how important they are to her health. And I'm not a huge pill taker, but it is a must.  The fluid is starting to seep through her skin because it has no where else to go. She is in final stages of edema. I say that with an air of humor, but actually it's true. We weigh her daily and this morning she put on two pounds since yesterday, so I know. I know that when Zak was here with her yesterday morning she must have palmed her pill. I know because she only peed twice yesterday and anyone who has ever taken a diuretic knows the impossibility of that. And I know cause I caught her today. And I kept trying to bust her by handing her something in the hand where it was palmed and she was clever. Oh so clever at moving it back and forth until I called her on it.  She said with a perfectly straight face, "I take that one last."  BS hahaha  Who takes a handful of pills and saves one of the tiniest ones for last? I told her I was no dummy, and I saw her try to hold back the hint of a smile before it was overtaken by an angry sigh of resignation.  When they test her for dementia I suggest they just give her a diuretic to take. Demented like a fox.

It's just that she's getting more and more sedentary, and thus feels that the diuretics calling is too much of a nuisance. I'm sure counting on the assisted living facility to get her motor running strong again.

Another bit of joy: On the counter in front of the toaster is the first lovely bloom of daphne.  It is such a remarkable gift of winter.  The bush outside is loaded with them, but not quite open to full bloom.  Daphne reminds me of my mom.  I remember when she first introduced me to them in her and my dad's garden.  I was smitten for life.

EVENING UPDATE:  Yay!  Look what Camille found when she was packing up Mom's crystal hutch!  A sock ready for the gusset.  In all the hustle and bustle of moving to Chicago I just forgot about it I guess.  (Plus this goes to show you what a sanguine knitter I am!) it was one I left here  so that I always had a project to work on when I dropped in.  Nothing like starting a project that is half done already!

 

this moment

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.

Pacific Grove

 

Work this week has me down the California coast in Pacific Grove, right next to Monterey. The weather has been amazing: sunny, clear, still and mild.  Truly a gift from God I say.  

 

I've been spending my days galavanting on the shores, trails, piers and streets of interest with a little six year old that has been a delight.  Sipping my morning coffee on the bottom cliff stair while watching him gather shells and swing seaweed. We both gather our favorites and then he likes to hae a trading session.  This teeny little sea urchin (here next to a dime) was my favorite,

 

Eating meals at different restaurants the locals recommend.  Having drawing contests.

 

 

We spent a whole day yesteday at the Monterey Bay Aquarium.  

 

Today we scouted the Monarch Habitat, but only saw a few single butterflies up very high in the trees.  I think we were too early in the day and needed to wait until the sun was higher.  

We ended up playing at the beach all afternoon.

The little beach house they rented is sweet and comfortable and right across the street from the ocean.  We are very busy and do a lot of playing, but in between I find some time to knit and read. Um...not this book :)

 

 It's a busy world with an active six year old boy 12 to 15 hours a day, and shower and bed feel more than heavenly when they come around, but it has been such a nice time.  I love my nanny fam like my own and this has been a perfect treat after the last few weeks with Mom.  

Tonight I'm sitting up here in my bed posting, after a long, warm shower to wash all the day's sand away, and I feel the little bit of rosy the sun left on my cheeks and nose today.  I'm going to sleep great tonight.  And tomorrow?  We'll meet dad at the beach adjacent to the conference grounds with a picnic lunch at noon and then...and then....not quite sure yet but I'm looking forward to it! 

Little Hands

Yesterday I was walking and little Temple came up from behind and put her hand in mine and said, "It's me, Temple." I knew that of course. Immediately I recalled how I was able to identify each and every child in my kindergarten class by the feel of their little hand without even looking down. I miss all those hands....xoxo

Just in the Nick of Time

Isn't it interesting how that works? I had a rough day today because Mom was assessed for her assisted living facility and it just seemed that there were glitches at each step moving forward. And then I got home and found a whole new batch of Eli and Sofia photos in my email.

They are at the Nature Museum butterfly exhibit in Chicago.  Look at the awe in those faces! Butterfly Awe.  (Recognize Sofia's sweater?)

 

 

Fresh Air

This morning as I turned the key in several locks to enter my Mom's condo and pick up some things to bring to her at the hospital, I was met by the smell and the closeness of my parent's home. It has always had this close, warm air.

When my dad was alive it spoke of the bacon he fried most mornings, as well as something beefy simmering on the stove for dinner. Now that he has passed on and Mom lives alone it is more like moth balls and Chanel #5. And sadly now, sometimes, diapers that have taken too long to get to the outside garbage can.  But whatever memories the years conjure up as the door swings open, there is always a whiff of warmth that greets me.

My home has never had that. That physical warmth that fills your throat. I've always been one that, no matter the weather (even in Chicago!) the windows are swung open wide for fresh air. I love that smell. It is an essence that sneaks subtly in through a breeze in the curtains, or with the laundry or in someone's hair when they return from a walk or a day's work. It is crisp and a little bit cold, but alive and fresh and new! It is a pure language that bespeaks its carrier in a whisper so pure you have to really pay attention.

That said, I must say that I focus more at allowing others to feel the warmth in a different way than my parents did. I try to keep alive the warmth of the heart and the soul, so that they may be felt by those who enter my door.  I offer healthy food.  My beds are cozy and soft with luxurious linens.  I've been called a bed snob. I'm kinda proud of that.  Warm cozy beds say thank you to a body that's done a good, honest, hard day of living. 

So this is my way.  Not that its anything better. Just different. And today I noticed this while holding my Mom's key in my hand...

The Year of the Dragon

 Looking on the Internet for some fun thing to do with/for my nanny family on Monday, I came across this! :)

Here is a roundup of the superstitions surrounding the Chinese New Year:

1. No Cleaning - The household has to be thoroughly cleaned before the New Year's day because it is believed that cleaning sweeps away bad luck from the last year. However, all cleaning equipment should be put away before the New Year's Eve so that good luck is not swept away. Even though sweeping is allowed after the first day of a New Year, the garbage and dust shouldn't be carried through the front door, as it may result in death or estrangement of a family member.

2. No Ghost Stories - According to Chinese beliefs, what happens on the New Year's Eve sets a precedent for the rest of the year. Foul language and unlucky words are a taboo on the first day of the New Year. Since ghost stories essentially involve mentions of death, children as well as elders are not allowed to tell stories related to spirits, zombies or the undead.

3. No Washing Hair - Though you are encouraged to get a hair-cut on the first day, you're not supposed to wash your hair to ensure that good luck is not washed away.

4. No Books - Book stores remain closed on the New Year's Eve as buying books is not allowed. The reason stems from the fact that "book" is a homonym for "lose" in Cantonese. However, apparently, there is no restriction on reading.

5. No Shoes - Shoe shopping is restricted on the first day because "shoes" is a homonym for "rough" in Cantonese.

6. No Crying - Crying is also a strict no-no on New Year's Eve which is why children are spared from spanking or punishments on the first day.

7. No Sitting in Bedroom - It is unlucky to meet anyone in their bedroom on the New Year's Eve, which is the reason why everyone, including infants, elderly and even those who are sick, are made to dress up and sit in the living room.

8. No Sharp Objects - Handling sharp objects is considered bad omen on the first day of the New Year, as they may "cut off" good fortune. It is recommended to put away knives and scissors the previous day.

9. Red is Good - Bright red clothes, decorations and ornaments are highly recommended for the Chinese New Year. Children receive money in red paper envelopes from parents who wish them a healthy and happy New Year. Red paper-cuts and couplets with popular themes of "good fortune" or "happiness," are used to decorate the household.

10. Songbirds are Good - The first person you meet on the New Year's eve holds great significance on how lucky you would be throughout the year. It is considered lucky to see or hear songbirds, red-colored birds or swallows on New Year's Eve.

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